Chapter 14: establishing & maintaining relationships in college

• build relations w college instructors: basis is mutual respect
• what your instructors expect from you: come to class, do assigned work, listen, participate, think critically about course material, persist, honesty
• instructors who know you well can write letters of recommendation
• academic freedom: unlimited freedom of speech & inquiry granted to professors to further advancement of knowledge as long as human lives/rights/privacy are not violated
• if things go wrong btwn you & instructor:

1. ask for a meeting to discuss problem
2. go to administrative ladder, starting at the bottom

• in class, get at least 1 person's contact info so that you won't be lost in class
• don't get lost in social media & let it interfere w academic success & well-being
• relationships in college: many opportunities & different choices
• don't marry before you & partner know for sure who you are & what you want in life
• college students change life goals & outlook a lot which can negatively affect relationships
• breaking up- explain feelings & talk it out, do it cleanly & calmly, be mature
• don't get involved w your boss, professor, subordinate, etc.
• marriage/parenting + college = hard
• establish good relationship w parents by being aware of their concerns
• find a comfort zone/niche in college to feel comfortable
• don't overextend yourself when it comes to campus activities
• service learning combines coursework w outside work in a community w goal of teaching civic responsibility & strengthening  community
• protect your privacy online by not oversharing, restrict photos to friends only, etc.
• a roommate doesn’t have to be a best friend, just someone with whom you can comfortably share your living space while in college
• academic freedom allows you to express your own differing opinion
• seek help from campus's counseling center if you find yourself having relationship problems
• co-op programs: allow students to work in field of study while enrolled in college, offer valuable experiences & preview of what work in the field is like
• you may need to take responsibility for some things that you previously relied on your parents for
• 10% of first-year college students have difficulties getting along with roommates
• helicoptor parent is a term coined by instructors and administrators to describe parents who exhibit hovering behaviors like trying to make decisions for a student or wanting to know what they are doing every minute of the day